Confessions of a people pleaser.

This picture was taken last year but goodness I love coffee and can’t wait to enjoy Christmas in a cup this year!
(In case you’re worrying, I realize coffee isn’t what christmas is all about!)

I’m planning to decorate in the coming days and I am getting very excited.  I held off long enough and soon the beautiful christmas tunes will bounce off these four walls! We are anxious around here!
I was thinking about throwing a pity part for myself until my man leaves but I realize how pathetic that really is and I want to enjoy this holiday season and be thankful he’s here.
So scratch the pity party idea!

Moving on..

I have been known to let people yank me around.
I’m a people-pleaser.
It’s kind of awful how bad of one I am.

I hear people tell me not to care, but I can’t help it.

I will let a person yank me back and forth as many times as they choose for the sake of loving them.
I don’t like to not be liked and so i’ll sit uncomfortable with certain people as they bash how I mother, what I believe, and essentially who I am.
They mask it with sarcasm believing it makes it okay since they are only joking?
It absolutely wrecks me!

The truth is, I don’t know how to NOT be a people-pleaser.
I want to love people in such a way that they come close to christ and that’s why I sit smiling, sometimes attempting to defend myself.
But recently I read something, Jesus’ words.

Matthew 10:14
And if anyone will not receive you or listen to your words, shake off the dust from your feet when you leave that house or town.

Jesus is talking with his closest friends as he tells them basically that when they go out sharing the gospel not everyone will receive it well. He doesn’t say to sit still in their homes until they like them and believe the truth.  He says move on! Shake the dust off your feet and move on.  There are other people ahead that need to be loved that are willing to receive you and this message of hope.

Love from a distance.
Agree or disagree?
I’m still working this one out!
^see i’m such a people pleaser!

I want to be about pleasing God, not people and that’s where i’m at.
The desire is there but now I need to figure out the how to.



2 thoughts on “Confessions of a people pleaser.

  1. the white wave

    I don’t think I am a people pleaser, but I do struggle with something related, and that is considering others’ opinions of me before considering how God views me. I am so interested in friendship, but from my many readings of Proverbs, it is abundantly clear to me that God would definitely have us love some people only from a distance, and He even tells us that there are types of people we need to avoid. This seems like an unloving thing to do, but this is God’s wisdom to us.


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